I’ve been cheating on you

My friendies, I have been struck down with The Sickness – that’s why I haven’t been talking at you so much of late. However, I do have a little treat for you in the form of an entry I wrote to celebrate Lindauer’s 30th birthday


Read it here, and comment on it okay? I don’t want it to look like I don’t have any friends.


22 thoughts on “I’ve been cheating on you

  1. Very purdy phto 🙂

    Don’t worry, 30’s were good, having recently started the next decade, the 40’s are better. Took me far too many years to truly not care what others thought, or care about what I thought they thought, when in fact they weren’t actually thinking anything about me because they were worrying what everybody was thinking about them ;-D

    1. I’m going to make a decision right now to be totally zen about turning 40. If I start mentally preparing now, then by the time I get there it should be a walk in the park, right?

      You are right about people not thinking about the things you think people are thinking about you when in fact they are not thinking about you but thinking about what other people (possibly including you) are thinking about them.

      1. Good luck with the Zen thing, tried that but when it actually approcahed I still got all weiredystrange about it.

        Just think, if noone is actually thinking about what they think about anyone else, and are constantly worrying what others are thining about them, and the others are not thinking about them at all because they are so preoccupied worrying about what other others are thinking about those people, who aren’t in fact thinking any such thing as they are trying to be perfect so people will think well of them, but they’re not, because they’re trying to impress everyone to boost their own self esteem which is piontless given everyone is doing the same and noone is taking notice of anyone but themselves… got it?

      2. Wasn’t going to say anything but truthfully for me turning 40 was like the universe changed gear, clicked if you like, and EVERYTHING was better, sooooo much better and in sharp focus. And I felt so dam good!!!! Everything improved…..I came into my self,my goddess self. Personal, yes, but true.
        The 30’s were just a trial run

      3. Sorry for that rave it sounds a bit OTT so take and leave what you want.

        Jane when you are 40, you become the person people listen to and you really don’t care what they think; Just like KT said.

      4. Hahaha… Phoebe1, I think Geoff was referring to my mindless brain explosion 😉 But you are so right re turning into our goddess selves once we hit 40 😀

  2. When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
    With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.
    And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
    And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.

    I love this poem 😉

  3. In my thirties I started writing a desiderata not knowing then what I do now. It wasgoing to be, I hoped, a summation of the knowledge passed to me by people I had met or whose words I had read or listened to and in some way had rung a resonant chord in my being. I wanted to pass these gems of wisdom onto people following in my footsteps. Then I passed the four decade mark.
    Looking back over the last decade and more that has passed since I started borrowing the words of others I realised that I enjoy seeing worlds through other people’s eyes. Their truths are different from mine but one that I have consistently enjoyed is that of young Miss Yee, (and I believe I am qualified to refer to you as “young”).
    My truths are not the same as yours and my collected wisdom is not relevant to your experiences so the best I can offer on turning fourty is perhaps what you have already discovered. Be happy. Some of your experiences have been in quite dark and lonely places yet you have fought through and come out the other side into the light.
    It is that optimism and drive that I admire the most about your writing and whether you post again tomorrow, or two months (or years) from now I will always look forward to seeing the world though your words.

    And you do have friends whether you post or not.

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