A neighbourhood united

Hey so, just quickly, I am no longer a working-mum. I am now a stay-at-home-mum. I mean, I do leave the house on occasion – it’s not like I literally just stay at home – but I don’t leave the house to go to work. Well, sometimes, but hardly ever.


I finished up at work. Things were getting too messy with Joel looking after LV a couple of times a week. It was compromising his work and stressing us all out, so we sat down and talked about it. Then we stood up and talked about it. Then we went for a drive and talked about it. And at the end of all this changing position and talking about it, we came to the conclusion that if we were a lot more mindful about how we allocated our funds we could get by just fine on Joel’s income.

So yeah, I’m now officially jobless** and the house has never been cleaner. Huzzah!

But let’s move on to what I really want to talk about, now that I have the time to write and all…

As a weirdo stay-at-home-mum, I gaze out of my windows a lot during the day (the kid looks after himself, obvs) and there seems to be quite a lot of young families about. I see a great deal of mums, dads and grandparents wearing out the pavement as they push prams and strollers around the neighbourhood. Every time I see a small child pushed past my eyes I think one of the following thoughts:

  • “we could hire a bouncy castle”
  • “the older kids could run a lemonade stand”
  • “a BBQ on every grass verge!”
  • “it would be just like an episode of Sister Wives but we wouldn’t all be married to one man!”

Guys… I want a street party! The tricky bit is I don’t want to organise one. Nor do I want to engage in awkward door-knock conversations with my neighbours. Especially because I know I’m discerning enough to see straight through polite smile-nods to the ‘leave us be, you crazy neighb!’ look in their eyes.

But humour me for a moment and just imagine… we could invite families from nearby streets and they would all be in awe of our street’s community spirit. There would be music and paddling pools and chalk-drawing on the footpath. We would bob for apples, hold sack races and sort out the men from the boys with a good old fashioned tug-of-war. There would be face-painting and tree-climbing and an obstacle course for those blimmin’ scooters every kid has these days. As the day wears on, littlies could be put down for naps in their own homes and then rejoin the party happening right on their doorsteps when they wake.

Hands would be shaken, playdates would be set up, friendships would be formed.

Ah yes, it would be the beginning of something quite lovely. Wonderful memories created for the neighbourhood kids. A reminder of a more innocent time for the older residents. A neighbourhood united…

And a great way to find someone to feed the cat when we go away.


**Still doing a small amount of freelance consultancy work

7 thoughts on “A neighbourhood united

  1. I’ve always loved the idea of street parties! But I always lived in more rural areas 🙁 Maybe you could set it up subtly? Like make an anonymous Facebook group/page for the your street party – then put anonymous fliers about it in letterboxes and see if anyone joins up for the fun! And if they don’t no one would be any the wiser that it was your idea. But if is does go off (esp if there is a great events planner living on your street stuck at home itching for something to do) you can totally claim it as your idea 🙂 !?!?

  2. With your love of reality Tv, I know you will totally get this; What would Tori Spellng do…?? 🙂 Kimberments idea is good, ou could try that, my street has a guy fawks party every year, unfortunately we don’t like our neighbous so don’t partake, but they have blankets out, food, laughter etc, it seems like fun for those that get involved.

    Being a SAHM is awesome and now LV is older you get to do all those fun things you wanted to do when he was little, and summer is coming up – days at the beach while daddys at work! YUSS!!!!

  3. I like this idea…and I’m in a nearby street! Plus I have a candy floss maker that I used unsuccessfully one time that I’m willing to donate to the cause.

    Good on you guys for working out what’s best for all of you and making the tough decisions, too!

  4. Oh welcome to SAHM life. It’s a big move giving up work, the thing that has defined you for so long. Takes a wee while to get used to, and can sometimes be a bit soul destroying, but it is worth it. Almost all of the time 😉
    It’s definitely the best thing for your child. And for you!
    Summer is pretty awesome. The beach definitely beats the office! Also winter, so nice being at home in the warm.

  5. Jane, I think your writing is so great – I wonder if you’d consider the odd guest post over @ The Baby Bag? Our blog is a bit sad at the moment but we’re doing a website relaunch at end of Jan and one of our focuses is the blog. Anyway, if you’re interested, email me at jessie@thebabybag.co.nz. Love from your friend at St Luke’s Medical Centre.

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